Let Them. Two small words...
A whole new way of seeing the world.
One of my favourite teachers, Marc Holzman, wrote about this recently, and it stuck with me. The phrase comes from coach Mel Robbins, but the idea? It’s been around forever, Stoicism, Buddhism, Radical Acceptance. It’s all about letting go of what you can’t control.
If they choose someone else over you, let them.
If they misunderstand you, let them.
If they cut you off in the queue, let them.
It’s freeing. But here’s the catch, it doesn’t mean doing nothing. It means knowing when to act and when to let go.
I'll leave you with a couple of examples:
A while back in my studies, I found myself staring down what I felt was a real injustice. It stung. I teetered on the edge, speak up or to let them?
My therapist didn’t hesitate. She told me this wasn’t the time to retreat. I had to say something, not just for them to hear it, but for me to know I had. So I did. With fear and fire.
And then… nothing. No reply. No reckoning. Just silence.
That’s when I finally let them, not before, but after I’d said my part. Because sometimes, peace comes not from being heard, but from knowing you spoke.
And then there are times when letting them is the whole point.
The other day, when I hired a car. I had to get a shuttle bus to the rental. A guy in front sprinted round the bus to cut the queue. Annoying? Yes. Comical? Also yes.
I let him. Even joked about how vital it must be for him to get there first. He laughed. We chatted about our trips.
Keep it light, keep it easy.
In a world that feels out of control, focus on what you can.
You.
Let them.
